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Q: I am worried about my kids having too much access to AI. I am not really sure just what it is all about. But I have heard that young people need to understand just what it is and if any precautions need to be taken. As the parent, I am definitely not the one to explain any of this to them. Can you help?

 – Lillian C.
Bradenton, Florida

A: Well, welcome to the club! If it makes you feel any better, half the software engineers in Silicon Valley are currently staring at their computer screens wondering exactly the same thing. You’ve touched on a topic that has moved from the realm of science fiction to “that thing my kid uses to cheat on their history essay” faster than a gigabit connection on a good day.

Don’t beat yourself up for not being the “expert” here. In the world of technology, being a parent often feels like trying to explain how a car engine works while your teenager is already out in the driveway doing 60 mph in reverse. But you don’t need a PhD in computer science to guide your kids. You just need to understand the “Geek” of it all.

At its simplest level, Artificial Intelligence (AI) is just a computer program that is very, very good at spotting patterns. Think of it like a “Super Student” or a “Robot Librarian” who has read every book, watched every video, and listened to every conversation on the internet. It doesn’t “know” things the way you or I do; it just knows that after the words “Once upon a…” the next word is almost always “time.” It’s basically autocomplete on steroids.  From that simple construct springs all the remarkable capabilities into which AI has developed.

When children use “Generative AI” (like ChatGPT or Gemini), they are interacting with a massive math equation. This equation guesses the next likely word based on everything it has seen before. It is not a conscious being, but for many kids, they can’t tell the difference between AI responses and having a genuine conversation with a living person.  Teaching this to your kids is the real key to helping them understand what AI is, and more important, what it is not.

Here are some things that both young people and their parents should know about using these tools:

1. AI is prone to digital “Hallucinations.” In the tech world, when an AI makes something up but presents it with such confidence that it’s believable, it’s called a “hallucination.” Because AI is a pattern-spotter, it can easily identify patterns that don’t actually exist. If a child asks AI for help with a school report, they need to know that they should verify every “fact” that the AI provides, lest their grade suffers.
2. AI is a tool, not a friend. There is a growing trend of AI companions and chatbots that are designed to mimic human friendship. It’s vital for children to understand that these bots have no feelings, no empathy, and no actual “life” outside of their code. They should not share personal secrets or emotional struggles with a program that is essentially a very fancy calculator, and they certainly should not make personal decisions based on an AI’s advice.
3. Privacy has a price. Most adults know that nothing is truly free. When children interact with AI, they often provide data—their interests, their writing style, and sometimes even personal details, all of which have value in the digital world. Teach kids the “Billboard Rule”: If they wouldn’t want it printed on a giant billboard in the center of town, don’t type it into an AI prompt.
4. The “Brain Drain” Risk. Using AI to write an entire essay isn’t just “cheating”—it’s skipping the mental gym. If your child lets the AI do all the thinking, the only thing they’ve learned is how to craft AI queries; and so, their education suffers. Encourage them to use it as a brainstorming partner, not a ghostwriter.

You don’t have to give a lecture. Instead, try these “Geek-approved” strategies:

• Explore Together: Sit down and try a tool together. Ask it something silly, like “Write a poem about a cat who is obsessed with eating lasagna in the style of Shakespeare.” Then, ask it something factual and see if you can spot any mistakes together.
• Ask “How Does It Know?”: When they see AI recommend something on TikTok or YouTube, ask them, “How do you think the computer knew you’d like that?”. It helps them realize they are being “pattern-matched.”
• Set “No-Bot” Zones: Establish clear boundaries for schoolwork. Maybe AI is okay for outlining an idea, but definitely not for the final draft. Use tools like Google Family Link to manage access if you feel things are getting out of hand.

AI isn’t a monster under the bed, but it isn’t a magic wand either. It’s just the newest, shiniest tool in our digital toolbox.  If you’re still feeling overwhelmed, just remember: I’ve been answering tech questions for 20 years, and even I still have to look up which cord goes where sometimes. We’re all in this “Geek” journey together.

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